Impulsiva come sono, ho mandato la richiesta di amicizia su Facebook a un uomo che conoscevo personalmente. Ha cominciato a scrivermi su messenger. Io, da brava insegnante, ho subito cominciato a "insegnare", gli parlavo dei paesi dove avevo vissuto, delle usanze di quei paesi, (lui voleva tanto viaggiare ma il tempo non glielo permetteva, troppo impegnato con il lavoro), gli insegnavo anche qualche parola o terminologia in inglese e così via. Niente di romantico insomma.
Poi un giorno, a causa della mia possessività e gelosia (sono una Leonessa), ho mandato tutto all'aria dicendogli che avevo visto i suoi commenti "flirtosi" con altre donne su Facebook e lo consideravo un Don Giovanni. Non l'avessi mai detto. E' andato su tutte le furie, dicendomi che non era un Don Giovanni, che lui amava la moglie e i figli, e che queste donne erano "vere" amiche. A questo punto mi sono infuriata io e ho detto "ma allora io cosa sono, falsa e finta?" Insomma io ho avuto l'ultima parola .... ultima veramente ....perchè non mi ha più scritto. Ho aspettato circa 6 settimane e poi gli ho tolto l'amicizia. Non mi andava di avere qualcuno fra gli "amici" che non metteva mai un like o un commento. Comunque da più di 18 mesi non lo sento più. Sparito.
Ecco cos'è il Ghosting.
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I wonder how many of you are familiar with the term "GHOSTING". When I first heard the word I immediately thought of Casper. Remember the cute little friendly ghost? He was so adorable, I always used to watch the cartoon, even when I was in high school...and even when I was in college for that matter. Cartoons in those days were fun and everyone of every age watched them. I don't like the modern day cartoons, especially the scary ones or violent ones. Casper was supposed to be scary but as soon as he said BOO we all laughed!
Anyway to get back to the subject of this post, I want to explain to those of you who don't know, what Ghosting means. According to the dictionary it literally means
the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.
Have you had this experience? I have. This is what happened.
I added a fellow (whom I knew in real life) on Facebook. We started communicating through private messages. Being a teacher, I immediately started giving lessons ...on travel and on the English language and whatever. Please note that this was not a Romantic relationship. It was purely personal and friendly. Until I messed everything up by mentioning that he was a Don Juan because I caught him flirting with several women on FB. Never did I expect such a violent reaction. He said he was not a Don Giovanni, he loved his wife and kids and so on and so forth. Anyway, it was too long ago so I don't remember all the details. I do remember though that he said those women were "real" friends. To which I replied "Ah, so I am not a real friend am I? What am I, fake and phoney? Anyway, the point of the matter is that I wrote a message practically apologizing but I never heard from him again. I waited about 6 weeks but got no news from him. Not even any likes or comments on my posts. So I unfriended him. Haven't seen or heard from him since...about a year and a half already.
This is my experience with GHOSTING. Has anything similar happened to you?
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